He thinks it’s him… but I know it’s me :(?
We’ve been ttc for 6 months… I haven’t had a period for 3.
He thinks its his little men with “problems” as well as my messed up hormones (which the doctor won’t treat… he put me on the pill a couple of months ago before I start fertility treatment to regulate my hormones a bit, but he says I can’t start it til my next period, which I haven’t had).
My amazing fiance doesn’t moan about the struggle we’re having doing this, he says he loves me no matter what, but when we go out and see teenage mothers, or indeed any family with young children, I can see the hurt in his eyes, and the guilt is eating me up inside, as well as my inner hatred for myself.
I’m constantly getting cramps, but my GP just put it down to IBS and gave me pills. These cramps arise every two weeksish, but sometimes I get the odd twinge. My breasts sometimes get sore but not on a regular basis. I’m going to push the fact that I want a scan to see whether I’ve got ovarian cysts or cancer (worst case scenario), next time I go to GP, but he’ll probably just laugh it off like he usually does.
Btw, I really admire all the lovely people that have been trying for ages and never give up, you guys are the inspiration for me continuing this and not just throwing the towel in and giving up 
Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with my man problems over this (I’m sure it’s not his little men, his father had 5 kids no problem lol), and natural ways of ttc, and increasing chances of ovulation? I have a balanced diet… although i sometimes have too much dairy products. I’m not overweight though, and I don’t have any other major health problems, other than my lack of periods… which runs in the family… but my mother and grandmother never had periods so irregular as mine.
I’m more relaxed about it now than I was, and I’ve stopped worrying so much, but I don’t want us to suffer any more trauma over this.
Help?
The only way to really know if there is a problem with him, is to get him tested. I would be willing to bet that before your doctor puts you on any type of fertility medication, your husband will be asked to have a semen analysis. It’s an easy test (although no guy wants to do it) and it will give you piece of mind because you’ll be isolating the problem. Bottom line is, your doctor should never pump medicine into your body if hubby-to-be has a problem as well! Just go get tested, you’ll both feel a lot better about the situation once you do!!!
Good Luck!
u may have endometriosis…it can sometimes be confused with IBS…you need to see a gyno instead of the GP…mine also told me I had bad PMS but my gyno found out i have severe endometriosis that had fused my colon and uterus together…i also had three ovarian cysts…i just had the surgery to remove it all and hope to get pregnant soon.
As for all your other problems…I can’t really help you….there’s also a chance that both of you have a problem…it doesn’t matter if his dad had 20 kids that doesn’t mean your man can….
finally if you’ve only been trying 6 months and no period for three then you really only had two ovulations…which means two shots at getting preggers…it’s too early to say my dear…and good luck
The fact that you did get a period 3 times in 6 months is good enuf. I would start by temp charting to see when you ovulate and time sex accordingly. It just might be that your cycle is long. You can also start using OPKs to see if you get the desired spike.
For your DH, you know -boxers, no hot tubs and exercise is the regular. Plus you can get a multivit (there is one by GNC which has green tea extracts, L-carnine, etc necesary for TTC) and good healthy diet (you know how unhealthy diet some men can eat).
I know its tough and we have friends who get pregnant instantly! My DH was so cool abt it when we started TTCing but I now see that he too gets a bit sad with this. But hopefully it’ll happen only when it has to.So relax.!
Meanwhile get a second opinion with a GYN or OBG its always a good idea to get a check up and be peaceful about it.
Good luck and lots of baby dust******